The other night I was sat at home watching a popular TV programme on food, people and winning money for cooking food. I won't say what the programme was, as you may have guessed by now. And the topic about being real came up. As I understand, being real, or just being honest, tends to precede criticism and mouthing off without an understanding of who someone is, why they may be that way and therefore why they are acting as they are. Instead, it involves someone just saying what they think, feel or deem correct and giving the reason for their rant as being real or honest.
Firstly, you lie. There is nothing wrong with being honest, or being real - whichever you prefer, thats ok by me. However, if your intentions are good then they should be conveyed that way. It is not ok to give someone a verbal (and emotional) beating and expect them to take your message well and actually learn from it. I mean those who can will. Those who don't want to or don't understand will be left worse off by your honesty than if you'd just left them alone.
The Bible says to speak the truth in - wait for it - love. This establishes a hard but realistic motive for wanting to be honest and real. Why? Because if one is motivated by love, they want to convey such a tone and the message is well received, which creates a thriving environment for change. It doesn't have to be washy washy love, where Barry White has to be in the background before you sweetly sing to someone about how they stepped on your toes. Rather, it involves picking one's moment and choosing to understand them, as well as yourself.
Clearly, the programme about food, people and winning money for cooking food got me riled up about honesty executing tactics. But hey, I'm just being real.
Firstly, you lie. There is nothing wrong with being honest, or being real - whichever you prefer, thats ok by me. However, if your intentions are good then they should be conveyed that way. It is not ok to give someone a verbal (and emotional) beating and expect them to take your message well and actually learn from it. I mean those who can will. Those who don't want to or don't understand will be left worse off by your honesty than if you'd just left them alone.
The Bible says to speak the truth in - wait for it - love. This establishes a hard but realistic motive for wanting to be honest and real. Why? Because if one is motivated by love, they want to convey such a tone and the message is well received, which creates a thriving environment for change. It doesn't have to be washy washy love, where Barry White has to be in the background before you sweetly sing to someone about how they stepped on your toes. Rather, it involves picking one's moment and choosing to understand them, as well as yourself.
Clearly, the programme about food, people and winning money for cooking food got me riled up about honesty executing tactics. But hey, I'm just being real.
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