"Never make someone a priority when they only make you an option."
Wow, I remember the first time I read those words and thought, 'that's exactly what I need to hear after what I've been going through'. Those words are harsh but true, and the older and wiser I get, the more that I sometimes see them played out before my very eyes...
Priorities, as I relearned earlier this week, are the things which we choose to do or accomplish or hold in esteem above or put prior to anything else that we may have to do, accomplish etc. Its good to have priorities and to know and remind ourselves that certain things matter first and foremost, and that in fulfilling them most of the other things we are trying to achieve will fall into place or follow suit. However when you have a lot to prioritise and not many resources or much knowledge with which to accomplish what is necessary, you begin to work with a short fuse - everything becomes urgent and everything seems like it requires drastic measures all the time.
I used to work like that, and I used to thrive in such environments. The main reason for that is I'm a perfectionist at times; and if things do not turn out exactly as I envision them or want them to, then anything to make what I want possible seems a priority. But, again as I relearned this week, we need to be able to distinguish between what is important and what is urgent - and that will determine our effectiveness and our outcome; the rest is secondary and usually an option. I'm glad that now more than ever I'm really taking this on board and living life with the view that the things I value now and today and feel like I have to achieve so much, will not always be that way in the future. As I grow my priorities will change, evolve, some will continue and others will become futile. In other words, I've learned to let go when I have to.
Unfortunately with a change of priorities sometimes means that we have to change our scene and leave behind - or to the side, to the left or just right where they are so you don't get done for GBH*! - people who may not be helping us to achieve what is dear to us or part of our purpose in life. Again, harsh but true. I've been an option before for some people, I know it and I think that admitting it shows my strength and character rather than what I didn't have to be part of who they are. And no matter how hard that lesson was, it taught me to love and embrace always but to also keep a healthy balance of myself in that mix too; because if I can be myself and still be with certain people, then who I am is as much a priority to them as they are to me.
With this lesson in mind and more, I'm really excited about where I can go, be and love.
*GBH: Grievous Bodily Harm
Priorities, as I relearned earlier this week, are the things which we choose to do or accomplish or hold in esteem above or put prior to anything else that we may have to do, accomplish etc. Its good to have priorities and to know and remind ourselves that certain things matter first and foremost, and that in fulfilling them most of the other things we are trying to achieve will fall into place or follow suit. However when you have a lot to prioritise and not many resources or much knowledge with which to accomplish what is necessary, you begin to work with a short fuse - everything becomes urgent and everything seems like it requires drastic measures all the time.
I used to work like that, and I used to thrive in such environments. The main reason for that is I'm a perfectionist at times; and if things do not turn out exactly as I envision them or want them to, then anything to make what I want possible seems a priority. But, again as I relearned this week, we need to be able to distinguish between what is important and what is urgent - and that will determine our effectiveness and our outcome; the rest is secondary and usually an option. I'm glad that now more than ever I'm really taking this on board and living life with the view that the things I value now and today and feel like I have to achieve so much, will not always be that way in the future. As I grow my priorities will change, evolve, some will continue and others will become futile. In other words, I've learned to let go when I have to.
Unfortunately with a change of priorities sometimes means that we have to change our scene and leave behind - or to the side, to the left or just right where they are so you don't get done for GBH*! - people who may not be helping us to achieve what is dear to us or part of our purpose in life. Again, harsh but true. I've been an option before for some people, I know it and I think that admitting it shows my strength and character rather than what I didn't have to be part of who they are. And no matter how hard that lesson was, it taught me to love and embrace always but to also keep a healthy balance of myself in that mix too; because if I can be myself and still be with certain people, then who I am is as much a priority to them as they are to me.
With this lesson in mind and more, I'm really excited about where I can go, be and love.
*GBH: Grievous Bodily Harm
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